Antony Grey died on 30 April 2010 after a long fight with leukaemia. He was no stranger to doing battle with opposing forces.
Obituary, Antony Grey (1927-2010)
Antony Grey died on 30 April 2010 after a long fight with leukaemia. He was no stranger to doing battle with opposing forces. As a tireless Parliamentary lobbyist, he helped bring about homosexual law reform, later continuing his work through the Albany Trust. He continued to champion, train and counsel on issues around AIDS and the relief of sexual oppressiveness, whether straight or gay.
However, I did not know Antony in any of these capacities. I met him initially at the SCATS (the Standing Conference for the Advancement of Training and Supervision, 1979–1995), which grew out of the newly formed BAC’s annual training conference. Antony was a dear and loyal friend: a witty man with a wicked sense of humour. His clerihews were a special joy. Not a man to suffer fools gladly, he could be impatient and intolerant, particularly of bigotry and small-mindedness.
His partner of over 50 years told me that Antony wanted neither funeral nor memorial. I am sorry about this as I, with others, shall mourn his passing and miss him hugely.
I would like to add that as one of his counselling skills tutors, I have always remembered watching videos of Antony counselling; the quality of his attention and engagement was such that I could almost see a bubble surrounding him and his client. I have often referred to this special state which is generated in a deeply enabling helping relationship.