|"I am so grateful to Su Connan for her thoughtful article on kink and also grateful to Therapy Today for making it the cover story." |
|"In her article on masochistic sex, Su Connan argues that ‘kinky’ sex should not be ‘pathologised’ but accepted, and that because it occurs widely it is therefore perfectly ‘normal’." |
|"Thanks for your kink article in Therapy Today. I hope it will lead more therapists to think about what they know and what they don’t about human sexual diversity." |
|"Sadomasochistic sex is arguably one of the least understood and most demonised forms of consensual sexuality. How able are we to offer ethical therapy to kinky clients when there is so little awareness of the kink experience?"|
Su Connan, I take my hat off to you. I’m a Chartered Clinical Psychologist (AFBPsS, etc), involved as a therapist for decades, less so in recent years as my work has developed into psychological services to organisations as a whole
Insight and personal experience
Su Connan, I take my hat off to you. I’m a Chartered Clinical Psychologist (AFBPsS, etc), involved as a therapist for decades, less so in recent years as my work has developed into psychological services to organisations as a whole. In most of my psychotherapeutic past it would have been impossible for a beginner to read about or share the insight and personal experience you bring to the scene. My own experience in contrast has been gradual and on the job, so to speak, when SM-ers came for help and found me safe and comfortable with BDSM, they then recommended others.
I am hugely grateful for what I learned over the years from kinksters, both about them and about myself. As a therapist I was always a Rogerian type, with a quite passionate interest in what it must be like to be the other person before knowing if I could help. What I was given in return – and I am still astonished by it – was the openness and trust once it was decided I was trustworthy. Not just the invitations to dungeons and private parties, but even more the number of warm and personal friendships that still last. Congratulations on a well-written and informative paper – and to BACP for being ready to publish.
PhD, AFBPsS, FBACP, FRSA